Get Out of Your Head and Back in the Moment.

How Performance Anxiety Works

The brain is the most important sex organ. When you become anxious about your performance, your body enters "fight-or-flight" mode. It releases stress hormones like adrenaline, which are directly counterproductive to arousal—they constrict blood vessels (making erections difficult) and increase sensitivity (making ejaculation happen faster).

This creates a vicious loop: you worry, which causes a physical problem, which validates your worry for the next time. This "spectatoring"—where you're watching and judging yourself instead of being present—is the core of the issue.

Signs of Performance Anxiety

• You have no problem with erections when you're alone, but struggle with a partner.
• You find yourself constantly monitoring how firm you are or how close you are to ejaculating.
• You feel a sense of dread or panic leading up to sex.

Our Therapeutic Solution

Our counseling is a practical, skills-based approach to breaking the cycle:

1. Cognitive Behavioral Techniques: We help you identify and challenge the negative, catastrophic thoughts that trigger your anxiety.
2. Mindfulness (Sensate Focus): We teach you powerful techniques to get out of your head and focus on the physical sensations of the moment, which naturally boosts arousal and reduces anxiety.
3. Anxiety Reduction Skills: Learn simple breathing and relaxation exercises to calm your nervous system in the moment.